Marriage was designed to be an agape (unselfish) love. The attitude should be to give more than to take without any hidden agenda. If both partners live by this agape (unselfish) love then they are complementing and completing one another.
Marriage is a portrait of mutual yielding toward one another. Ephesians 5:2, “God’s love is contagious, not reluctant but extravagant, sacrificial love. This is what marriage is all about; it celebrates love initiative, whether coming from the husband or the wife. This awakens a different level of commitment beyond any sense of duty or guilt.” (Mirror footnotes on Eph 5:22-25)
Ephesians 5:25 Amplified Bible: “husbands love your wifes { seek the highest good for her and surround her with a caring, unselfish love}, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
Hence, if we have given all of ourself to our spouse, then there should be none of our ‘self’ remaining seeking fulfilment from other sources. If both marriage partners have done this then there is no room for others in the one-ness of the union. Marriage is not a 50/50 partnership, but rather a 100/100 fusion.
The above describes what we believe to be the perfect will of God. We also accept that at times things may not always work out that way in our modern world. Note that Moses allowed for divorce (Deut 24:1). We believe that the love (agape) of God which has absolved us of all sin, should therefore allow us to forgive others that may not fulfil that perfection. We believe for instance that a loving relationship between two people (regardless of genders) is better than any hatred and harm such a relationship may cause others to have.
